Tips for Writing Women’s Erotica


writing womens eroticaThere is much more involved in creating women’s erotica than merely pouring all of one’s sexual fantasies onto a page. It can be difficult to describe a sex scene without sounding stilted or awkward, which isn’t exactly erotic.

If you’ve met a few hurdles on your path, you’ve come to the right place. We’ve gathered a few tips to make your stories more erotic and less generic.

Don’t Skip the Preliminaries

Before you begin, mull your chosen subject over in your mind. Think about the specific acts you wish to write about, and where they will take place. Are you going to tackle a few fetishes? Are your sex scenes stimulating, so to speak?

Remember that women don’t want to read about the kind of sex they have every day. Erotica should break from the boundaries of realism and explore a world of fantasy.

Consider the Genre

Do your homework. If women’s erotica is new territory for you, read some. While you’re at it, do a little research on human sexuality. What are some of the things each gender wants from a sexual experience? Considering the sexual act from many different angles and perusing the competition will give you a creative leg up as you begin to set the scene.

Explore the First Person

You don’t have to write in first person if you don’t want to, but doing so can be especially enticing for a female readership – think “50 Shades of Grey.” Using the first person is a technique that will help transport your reader into the action, which can have quite a stimulating effect.


Make the Sex Make Sense

Women’s erotica shouldn’t remind us of the porno where the mechanic comes over to fix a television that isn’t broken and two naked coeds rip his clothes off without rhyme or reason.

Seduce your reader slowly by gradually leading up to the sex acts. Lay out the scene, introduce the players, show how they ultimately end up in compromising positions. This is not only steamier, it’s much less ridiculous.

Tempt and Tease

When you finally get to the much-anticipated sex scene, don’t dive right into the penetration part. You are writing for women, after all – a gender much noted for a love of foreplay.

Acts of foreplay open a wide berth for creativity; writers can dream up any number of ways to simultaneously tease and tantalize both characters and readers. Less can be much, much more. You may find it difficult, too, to go on for too much longer once coitus has begun.

Word Selection

Selecting terms to describe genitalia can be tricky, as you don’t want to write like a 13-year-old defacing the school bus. Erotica aimed at the gentler sex tends to use whimsical words – member, shaft, manhood – for penis. The vagina is often referred to as a woman’s apex, folds or heat.

This is one of those rules that you can break once you fully understand it. If, for example, you want to set a raunchier mood, it could be appropriate to be a bit nastier with your word selection. However, keep away from juvenile terms like thingy or va-jay-jay.

Don’t Enshrine the Ideal

Romance novels, soap operas and comic books tend to center around characters who have all come to us straight from the Barbie Doll factory. Hard bodies are often living out our sexual fantasies for us, and it gets old.

Again, don’t feel like you have to recreate a porno on the page. Real people have flaws and still somehow manage to be sexually attractive to others, so try looking to them for inspiration.

Explore the Unknown

When a woman picks up an erotic story, she wants to explore new territory. Don’t be afraid to take her somewhere she hasn’t been.


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